Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with troubles, cause despair, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, finances, age dissimilarity, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, date married man.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking affairs. I am sure generally though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your family or anybody else? You will need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown distantly, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.